In life, everything has a cycle. Everything has a process, a peak, and a decline. This is also true with people. Certainly, friendships also go through this life cycle.
We’ve all been there. We have a model friendship. We go through hell and back. We have stories for days, but the friendship isn’t quite the same anymore. There’s an unspoken type of conflict that keeps people from reliving or recreating those moments again.
Usually we can trace the declines of a friendship to moments where the love and care wasn’t reciprocal anymore. You asked your dear friend for a favor, your friend never came through. You understood, but you saw them pulling that favor for someone else. That’s where the expiration began.
You care so much about your friend. You can’t wait to talk about your day, you want to invite them to eat. They didn’t reply after 3 messages. They simply no longer care like they used to. You became a burden to them. You’re no longer a priority. You see them partying and hanging out with other people, while they never texted you back.
Worst of all, you want to help them and see them succeed. Well, they secretly want to see you lose. You notice their vibe is off when you tell them good news or your plans. Its the envy in them. They no longer see you as a friend. They see you as annoying competition.
Yes, this is a dark take. It’s not pretty. Its painful and the cause of sorrow for a lot of people. At least to the people with real feelings. It is not something you ever imagine happening.
Everything has a cycle. An egg hatches, the bird is fed, it learns how to fly, it congregates, it procreates its own offspring, it ages, it dies. Friendships, at times, are no exceptions.
If we can be at peace and look beyond the tragedy, we have to see that we are full of great things inside of us. We are great characters, full of great human quality. Real friends are going to cherish, appreciate, and respect you. They will be happy for you, not envy you. They will check up on you, not forget you. They will remember you, not count you out. The lesson for us is to be aware of the impostors, and keep our real people close to us. It is best to discard those people, like trash.
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